Team Andi-Roo: It’s an odd tribe that makes no sense.
I will admit it.
I use Triberr all wrong.
Most people create tribes wherein the members all make a pact with each other to share each other’s shit.
I like to call that a business transaction. “I will give you *X* amount of shares, for *X* amount of shares in return.”
It’s smart and fine and I have no beef with that.
But that’s not how I run Team Andi-Roo.
For one thing, I am not looking for business associates. I am not a business.
I already have a partner; I married him.
I don’t want to share anything that isn’t “cool” to me. And likewise, I don’t want my tribemates to share anything that’s not “cool” to them.
I share lots of stuff from people who probably hate me… because I am material driven and I don’t give a flip about who the writer is. I care about the content. I’m objective like that.
And I don’t check my stats to see how many people are sharing my content. It simply doesn’t matter to me.
I am coarse, abrasive, obnoxious, and prone to tantrums. Therefore…
…it would be foolish to expect a motivational self-help writer to tweet links to my rants.
…it would be impractical to expect an awesome professional site like web.search.social, which specializes in social media, to tweet links to my mommy-blogger moments.
…it would be silly to expect authors who are attempting to build their platforms to tweet links to my posts about toilet paper or breasts.
…it would be childish to expect everyone in my tribe to share everything I write merely because we are tribemates.
I’m not that kind of tribe leader.
You see, most people on Triberr are interested in promoting themselves, raising their own numbers, building their own ladders into the sky. While I can see the merit of that kind of thing from a distance, it just isn’t who I am, what I stand for, or how I play the game.
I read a comment at one point indicating that if you don’t care about stats then you should be writing in a diary, not online. I disagree.
Writing online, for me, is more satisfactory than writing in a diary, because with very little effort on my part, I am able to receive validation for my feelings. A piece of paper never once said to me, “OMG, IKR? What a dick-hole! I hate when that happens! You read my mind! I love that you said that! You crack me up!”
For one thing, if my diary ever said something like that, I’d shit myself and probably die. But seriously – these are comments that have been left on my blog posts. Not on every single one, by far. And not even every week. But often enough that I know writing online is more mentally and emotionally stimulating and satisfying for me than recording my thoughts on blank pages no one else will ever read.
I said I’m not looking for business partners. This is true.
So then what AM I looking for?
Writing online helps with all of the above, and more. I have found MY PEOPLE by blogging. And I have found a treasure trove of MY PEOPLE through Triberr.
Sometimes you don’t necessarily realize that you’re MY PEOPLE because you write in a different genre than I. So it might feel weird for you to realize that I actually hand-picked your ass for a reason. I invited you into Team Andi-Roo because your blog gives me something personal that only you can give.
Some members of Team Andi-Roo are still figuring shit out.
And that’s okay. I know it’s hard to unlearn what you’ve been taught in other tribes, on other blogs, in other mediums. It probably seems counter-intuitive to belong to a tribe because someone actually likes your material instead of your stats. But that’s how I roll. Always rocking the boat, making waves, and causing a ruckus.
I have some advice on how you can best survive the storm.
How to be in Team Andi-Roo (Point #1):
Give up the idea of reciprocity.
I know, I know.
This sounds like exactly the OPPOSITE of what Triberr is about.
And you’re right. It is. So go be reciprocal in other tribes.
My rules are only for me and mine. They do not apply to anyone outside my sphere of influence.
It will be hard for you at first, maybe, to stop checking to see if “That One Guy” shared any of your posts this week. After all, he puts out like 500-krillion posts per week, and most of them are crap, so it’s only FAIR if he shares your one measly post, right?
My tribe isn’t about being “fair”. My tribe is about curating what I consider decent material. You don’t have to like it. That’s fine. You’re free to go make your own tribe. But as long as I’m chief of Team Andi-Roo, the #1 Rule is this:
It ain’t gotta fair, and it ain’t GONNA be fair.
Get over it. You’ll be happier that way.
But listen. Even though it isn’t fair, I just want you to stay. I want to share your material. Whether you share mine, or anyone else’s, is irrelevant. So see? Sometimes it’s not fair, IN YOUR FAVOR!
How to be in Team Andi-Roo (Point #2):
Once you’ve gotten over the fact that some of your mates are going to be non-sharing individuals, and that I’m not going to do anything about it, you really only have two choices.
A – Leave. I hope you don’t pick this one, though, because I like having you around. I like your blog. I like what you write. I share at least 80% of your posts.
That’s why I invited you in.
I’d really rather you stay. Please stay.
B – Get picky. This is what you want to do. Only share the stuff you like. When I say “be selective” I really, really mean it. Mine is the one tribe where you are free to cherry-pick. If that means you only share one post in a month, SO.BE.IT.
I’m fine with that. For realz. Just stay.
How to be in Team Andi-Roo (Point #3):
Mute tribemates liberally.
This is the best thing you can do to help yourself. And happily, it doesn’t ONLY apply to my tribe. It applies across the board, to any tribe of which you are a member, or even the tribes you are merely following. If they show up in your stream, you can mute them. Go crazy!
Mute that guy who posts political shit. Mute that girl who always writes about her cats. Mute all those people who write 500-krillion posts per day. Mute Andi-Roo because she uses dirty language. Mute Andi-Roo’s entire tribe.
Mute. Mute. Mute.
How to mute a motherfucker.
It was brought to my attention that some of you don’t know how to delete, mute, or get rid of your annoying tribemates. Allow me to be of assistance. This is my very favorite function and I use it often. Probably TOO often, if there is such a thing.
Merely hover over a tribemate’s avatar and a box will pop up, like magic. That’s where you’ll see all the sharing versus non-sharing activity, but don’t pay any attention to that right now. Or, really, EVER. Unless some other tribe chief tells you to. But don’t worry about that information in Team Andi-Roo.
At the bottom left-hand corner of the pop-up box you’ll see the word “Actions” of which three are offered.
“Mute” is the Action we are looking for. Hit that, and a message will pop up asking something along the lines of, “Duuuuude, are you sure about this?” Hit YES, assuming you actually meant to mute the individual in question. Once you do, their material will no longer appear in your stream. It’s just that easy. Of course, I would never mute Jman cuz he is my homey.
“Report” is the third Action and I guess that is for tattling on douche-bags. Don’t be one and this will never apply to you. I’ve never used it, but I’m sure it will come in handy at some point in the future to know where it’s at. THERE IT IS. If you are a douche-bag, I will totally tell on you. Don’t think I won’t.
You like my arts.
To my current Tribemates:
Thanks for sticking with Team Andi-Roo while I’ve struggled to figure out who I am and what I stand for. I know it’s been confusing. I appreciate you staying. I hope this post makes it a little bit easier for you.
Of course, if you have already muted me, it’s probably been a cake-walk. Sucker.