My Happiness Project: T is for Trust Yourself
The AtoZ Challenge means posting every day in April except Sundays, which leaves exactly 26 days – one day for each of the 26 letters of the alphabet.
See my Great and Powerful Theme Reveal – My Happiness Project – for a full list of the posts, updated throughout the month.
And be sure to check out My April AtoZ 2015 Posse, a Twitter list composed of individuals I have every intention of visiting during this year’s challenge.
It took me a long time not to judge myself through someone else’s eyes. ~Sally Field
T is for Trust Yourself
I am a big fan of glitter, particularly the self-thrown variety. One of my friends speaks often of her “invisible crown” and another likes to say of herself that she is definitely “all THAT and a bag of chips”.
These are all various ways of saying that we must each find a way to be our own biggest fan. Guy or gal, don your favorite cheerleading uniform and shake them poms, baby! Believe you’re worth the effort, and that the trouble will be far outweighed by what you end up bringing to the table.
I’m not saying to outright LIE to yourself, but there comes a time when you have to believe in you because ultimately, you’re the only one who is with you 24/7.
Have you seen that image where the kitten looks into the mirror, and his reflection is a freaking LION? This is not meant to be self-deception. Because yeah, there is a special place in hell for people who pretend they are other than what they really are.
This is, in fact, meant to be an ego booster. Not an ego booster for the boaster, who hardly needs a boost for all that he can carry his own empty weight. This ego booster is for the deflated balloon we each inevitably become from time to time — and doesn’t it always seem to happen when no one else is around to fill us back up again?
Consider another image — the bucket. My daughter’s class operates around the idea that they each have a bucket, and that sometimes their buckets are empty, and we can each help our peers by helping keep ’em full. Like, with help on a project, or a hug, or a compliment, or a smile, or an eraser because those things have come a long way since I was in school and have you SEEN how adorbs they are now?
So trusting yourself means putting on a cheerleading uniform, shaking them poms, donning your crown, tossing some glitter, and carrying your bucket — because we are — each of us — all THAT and a bag of chips.
Don’t forget to ROAR. Or, you know, sing something at the top of your lungs. Whichever is more your style.
This whole post feels hokey.
And I hate when I write things that feel hokey, because if it feels hokey to me, it will sure as hell come off hokey to you. And that sucks.
It’s just that, I mean what I’m saying, and I don’t have a less hokey way of saying it.
And honestly, it doesn’t even really matter what I say or how I say it. Because ultimately, you can either try to “get” the message and translate it into whatever language speaks to your heart and gets your ass off the couch or into the shower… or you can continue missing the point and being a doo-doo brain.
This is me, telling myself, STOP BEING A DOO-DOO BRAIN. And it’s in the language I can understand, because I’m the one who wrote it, and I’m the intended audience.
I don’t think I’ve said it enough — a Happiness Project is personal.
What works for me may totally do the opposite for you.
So if this ain’t your speed — and I can totally understand why, because, again, I admit it’s unabashedly hokey as all fuck — then move the needle whichever direction you need it to go. Get a translator. Do what you need to do.
I’m working on pushing myself toward the finish line.
I’m learning to trust myself, to trust my inner voice, to trust that imaginary better image — my false reflection — because I am a fucking unicorn.
I am convinced all of humanity is born with more gifts than we know. Most are born geniuses and just get de-geniused rapidly. ~Buckminster Fuller
*Please see my post “B is for Books” for a full listing of all the books mentioned throughout this series.
A gold medal is a nice thing — but if you’re not enough without it, you’ll never be enough with it. ~From Cool Runnings
Every day this month I will share a song from my Happiness Song List.
Today’s song is “Ooh Child (Things Are Gonna Get Brighter)” by The Five Stairsteps.
- Are you all about the invisible crown?
- Tell me what you see in the mirror.
- Do you trust yourself?