Good thoughts. Outside of obvious abuse/neglect, we need to respect other parenting styles. As a childbirth educator I see the judgy stuff start from conception through to the labor and delivery. Drives me insane. I've spent countless hours assuring moms who choose epidurals, for example, that they aren't failures no matter how many gasps they hear... And I tell them up front it's only the beginning. People are going to judge lots of your future parenting choices. Get used to it. My advice is what my Granny told me: Just LOVE that kid and follow your instinct. :)
My adult hatchlings are pretty awesome... I made mistakes, did some things okay, and totally nailed other stuff. So let's all give each other wiggle-room in the parenting thing.