My Happiness Project: J is for Just Show Up
The AtoZ Challenge means posting every day in April except Sundays, which leaves exactly 26 days – one day for each of the 26 letters of the alphabet.
See my Great and Powerful Theme Reveal – My Happiness Project – for a full list of the posts, updated throughout the month.
And be sure to check out My April AtoZ 2015 Posse, a Twitter list composed of individuals I have every intention of visiting during this year’s challenge.
Eighty percent of success is showing up.
J is for Just Show Up
A lot of times when people hear the phrase “Just show up” they apply it to motivational messages — “Show up prepared and give it your all!”
Alternatively, some folks think that to JUST show up is a bad thing — like, why did you even bother coming if you aren’t ALL IN?
As a survivor of Depression, and one who struggles some days just to get off the couch, I take a different meaning to this phrase.
I love book clubs, scrapbooking crops, and writing groups. I enjoy visiting with my BFFs. I like attending functions. So I schedule these events, write them on my calendar, and anticipate them eagerly…
… right up until the time the events arrives.
And suddenly I’m too tired to go. Filled with so much dread. Weighed down by how emotionally exhausting the event is sure to be. Positive the event won’t be nearly as satisfying as staying home curled up under an afghan reading a book.
If I skip the event, then the moment it has passed I’m filled with irritation at myself for not pushing through the doldrums and forcing myself to attend. I’m ashamed of how ridiculous I felt.
As well I should be, for on the occasions I do manage to “Just show up” then I have a great time.
Same concept applies to when I used to belong to a gym. I failed to workout for several days, and then finally I’d force myself to go — to “Just show up” — with the understanding that I didn’t necessarily have to DO anything once I got there. I could always turn back around and leave.
But when I “Just show up” then 99% of the time I am so glad I did.
“Just show up” is one of my Personal Commandments, and while I do apply it to events, exercise, and even writing, sometimes the biggest part of it means getting dressed for the day.Sometimes what I really mean is, `Just show up TO LIFE.` I'm always glad when I do. Click To Tweet
Most of life is showing up. You do the best you can, which varies from day to day.
Try Improv Wisdom: Don’t Prepare, Just Show Up, by Patricia Ryan Madson. While I have only thus far perused the intro, it seems very helpful and I have added it to my extended TBR list. Please do let me know your thoughts if you have read what looks to be a delightful treat!
*Please see my post “B is for Books” for a full listing of all the books mentioned throughout this series.
To stay on the map you’ve got to keep showing up.
Every day this month I will share a song from my Happiness Song List.
- Do you ever find it difficult to to show up?
- What is something to which you dread going — even though you know it’ll be great?
- Why is the first step so dang hard?